What to Say Parents
Help kids feel good in their bodies and at ease with food.
1 in 2 girls and 1 in 3 boys ages 9 to 14 already want to be thinner. The comments we make about food and bodies, even small offhand ones, shape how kids see themselves for years.
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3 Simple Shifts
You don't need to overhaul everything. These 3 shifts in what you say — and what you stop saying — make a real difference for kids.
1. Treat All Kids, in All Bodies, the Same
2. Eliminate Body Comments from Your Vocabulary
3. Stop Linking Food and Exercise to Appearance
Learn the basics in less than 30 minutes.
Our free mini-course walks you through the 3 Simple Shifts with a short video and downloadable guide. It's the best place to start.
Be a part of the cultural shift.
Most of us grew up with diet culture, harmful body ideals, and confusing messages about food. We don’t want to pass that on to our kids.
WithAll’s What to Say program gives parents and caring adults a different framework — one where health and well-being come first, and kids grow up feeling good in their bodies and with food.
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Tools for Parents
Free guides and quick references for parents and caregivers to learn what to say (and what to avoid).
What to Say Instead
7 Guiding Principles
A Parent's Guide to Social Media
When Kids Talk About Bodies
Families Making the Shift
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“Each week, your What to Say for Me course gives me more than guidance on what to say—it helps me understand how to change deep-rooted patterns of low self-worth and body image. It also makes me feel less alone, having a community that tries to wrap their heads around these issues means a lot to me, too.”— MotherWhat to Say for Me Participant -
"My 15-year-old granddaughter has anorexia. I joined the What to Say community to gain more insight and have ideas to help her. I have struggled with disordered eating my whole life and tried not to pass on my thoughts on eating. What you have done for me is give examples of what to say in place of what not to say. Thank you."— GrandmotherTip of the Month Subscriber
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